The Guilt of Irreverence!

The concept of being reverential stems from the omnipotent belief of the fact that experience brings wisdom. Some cultures took this basic concept and evolved it into actions. They believed that reverence is not only something you give credence to but is also something you show in actions. Thus started the fallacy of “Not talking back” to your elders.

This was more widely accepted in some cultures than others and I can only speak for mine. Our ancestors clearly didn’t understand the compounding impact this basic concept would have on how Indians would be perceived around the world. This “value system” that clearly started on a very positive note, is showing up in quite detrimental ways in our society. By detrimental I mean, detrimental to our mental health. One of the major causes for the lack of the ability to “stand up for yourself” stems from the feeling of reverence so deeply rooted in our culture.

All the times that your opinions were shut down or simply ignored because you were very young have actually made you believe that your opinions are in-fact worthless as compared to your elders, which is not true in all cases. The funny thing is, when you step into the real world, you’re told to throw away that belief which is by now embedded in your blood, and you’re asked for your opinions by those very “elders”. And so, all your life you’ve been counterproductive in preparing yourself for the real world. I for one think it’s important we re-evaluate our values rather than blindly following what our ancestors taught us and start “standing up for ourselves”, for what we believe in as millennials and pass down revamped beliefs.

Published by kinnarijain

This blog is an attempt at taking charge of my life and giving “writing” – my passion – a chance to revive. Having tested myself over the years, I know I lose interest in my initiatives easily and hardly do I ever complete what I started. So, I have given myself a schedule and a deadline. I took inspiration from my very recent watch – Julie & Julia. Go watch it if you haven’t already! Take some time to explore the blog, read something interesting, subscribe to know every time I post and feel free to comment or reach out if you would like to collaborate on a project together.

2 thoughts on “The Guilt of Irreverence!

  1. This hits home for me as a young, loud, and very opinionated woman.

    It’s such a cultural thing too – in Hindi we have Aap, Tum, Tu for the word you.

    It goes on to show respect one way (Aap) but also the lack of it the other way around (Tu)!

    For the longest time I had such a hard time not saying “Sir” or calling my professors by name. :/


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