This is less of a blog, more of a memoir dedicated to my father. Why I felt the need to write it? Well, there are moments in your life when you realize your parents have taught you so many things by their actions without ever having to actually teach you anything. Sorry mom, but this one’s for Dad 😛
- Never work a day in your life
After a week of exhausting work, on a Friday morning I tell myself – “Just one more day”. Immediately after, I ask myself – “Is it really worth it?” I bet my Dad probably asked the same question to himself at some point in his life however we now know that he didn’t just mumble those things to himself, he did something about it. And it worked, a successful businessman and doctor, I like to believe, my father never worked a day in his life after that day. Don’t get me wrong, he worked his ass off, however this time he was working for himself and not for someone else, so it never felt like work. In all my years, I have never seen him complain after a hectic day of work. Being a frontline worker, I know that he is stressed now more than ever but that stress comes from the gravity of the disease and not from the work that’s going into it. For that matter, I see him more energized when there’s lots to do as opposed to when things are slow. He feels that when you’re not doing anything, you’re basically rusting away your potential.
2. Don’t expect/wait for reciprocation
A generous businessman might seem like an oxymoron but the person in question is an exception. It amazes me how many favors he gives out without expecting anything in return. Now, before all the realists out there, like my mom and myself, start complaining that this will only cause you to get used at the hands of the vultures of the world, I would like to debate that how you see people around you is highly based on your perception and experiences. This man right here only sees the good in people. It’s his choice and one of the reasons he is a success. A giver of sorts and a go-to person for many, people know they can reach out to him without feeling the guilt of not being able to pay back. As much as I like to think that this quality of his has rubbed off on me, the older I get, the more I grow suspicious of people around me. So, I am not there yet, and I don’t think I’ll ever be. But he inspires me every day.
3. Never stagnate
While I have a plan to retire at 50, he at 57, already has multiple projects on the go at the same time and planning for more in the future. I don’t think retirement is or has ever been in his plans. I don’t think my dad will be able to handle the stagnation that retirement brings, he is just one of those super active, energized by action kind of people. I feel like I am slowly getting there with my initiatives and my plans for the future but had I not seen my dad metamorphose, I would have thought that living like this and feeling like this on a Friday was probably okay. I now realize that it’s not and there are things to be done.
My dad’s my hero, I hope you find that inspiration in someone in your life too!