I’ve come a full circle and all of us do, don’t we? Went from being oblivious to the good and the bad in people, then became extremely aware of it to the extent of black and white and then that mellowed down to a grey. Now I’m at a place where I truly believe that no person can be classified as good or bad, they are just what situations make them. And to be honest “good” and “bad” might seem like absolute parameters but they are really not. They are so subjective. You might think you’re doing the right thing, the thing that’s good for you but might seem bad to another. We as millennials tend to look at it as absolutes and that’s where we fault. It’s not a yin and yang, it’s same all acrossthe circle, there’s some good and bad in all of us.
I was just listening to Radhi Devlukia’s reel and what she said really struck a chord with me. To think that “our weeds are in some way better than someone else’s weeds” is wrong. To think that the bad in us is not as bad as the bad in someone else is not right. Or to think that the good we do somehow outweigh the bad we do and for someone else it’s not that way is unfair. Some people have their dark side hidden beneath several layers and so they seem to be ALL good, like saints. While others don’t put any efforts to conceal their dark side and might come across evil the first time someone meets them. But are they all evil? “Don’t pass judgements” is probably the most cliché’d and widely used phrase ever but do we ever practice it? For all the times that I think of myself to be a better person than someone else, I curse myself to stop. I am not a saint and nor is he/she. We’re all a mix. Thrust this thought down your throat.
Repeat after Radhi, “My weeds are no better than someone else’s weeds”.
The Pear Shaped Realist 